Sunday, November 30, 2008

CAN THE WEIRD AND THE NON-WEIRD MAKE A TRUE LOVE CONNECTION?

In Giant Robot #54 (sorry, print only), Lynda Barry makes the following statement:

When one of my guy friends dated a girl I thought was too straight, I would be a total ass about it. I regret that my own weirdness made me a fascist about people who were not weird.
I'm of two minds on this. Of course, it's wrong to judge people based on what they look like, just like judging them on ethnicity or educational attainment. Some of the weirdest people don't dress weird at all--they don't need to. And it's never a good idea to bad-mouth someone's significant other, unless they are hurting them in some way and you have to intervene. Not to mention, depending on one's orientation, it could sound like you're auditioning for the job of new significant other in a particularly whiny and passive-aggressive way, which just poisons a friendship.

On the other hand, I've been to get-togethers and such with some horribly mismatched couples (thankfully not so often since college), and I just find it uncomfortable and icky. You just end up only spending time with the half of the couple you have something in common with and hope the other one doesn't show up to future events or they break up. My parents and grandparents both showed me examples of couples with a lot of common interests, so that's what I'm used to. Also, I've never seen or read of a couple that had that whole nothing-in-common thing going for them that seemed to be worthy of emulation.

Not that you can ever have everything in common, and it's good to have other friends and learn about new interests, blah-de-blah-blah. Here's where my dear Dr. S. reminds me that I had never experienced the glory of Evil Dead 2 before meeting him. I guess it's not so much what you've done, as what would be in the broad range of things you can see yourself doing. Like Potter Stewart and porn, I can't express in exact figures how much you have to have in common, but I know it when I see it.

Sunday, November 23, 2008

MORE WAYS TO GET YOUR JFRO FIX

Some people have complained that they are not getting their Jfro fix in a timely manner. I tend to suggest that people sign up for an RSS reader like Bloglines, My Yahoo! or Google Reader, but some are resistant to that idea. I swear, once you start using a feed reader, you won't know how you lived without it! My updates also appear on Friendfeed and Facebook if you are on those services.

For those who prefer to receive everything in their email box, I have created a mailing list that will receive a message when updates to Odd Obsession appear. So, if I forgot to send you a message about it, subscribe here. If you don't want to get updates that way, feel free to ignore it, I won't be offended. I myself prefer RSS, but I want to make all my readers happy.

Tuesday, November 11, 2008

TOP FIVE MARRIAGEABLE MALE CHARACTERS IN THE MOVIES




I discovered this article via Name That Film on the top 5 marriageable female characters in movies, so I decided to make my own for male characters:

H.I McDunnough, Raising Arizona. He reformed himself from a life of crime and only wanted to do what was best for his wife, too bad it didn't go so well.

Willie Mossup, Hobson's Choice. Possibly the only husband in the history of the movies to admit that his wife's bossiness was a good thing. Also, he and his wife are great partners in business as well as life, so they'll always have something in common.

Lloyd Dobler, Say Anything. Obvious, I know. Not many 18-year-old males would fly to London for their girlfriend's career. On the other hand, he's got his kickboxing, so you know he's not just a hanger-on.

Alfred Kralik, The Shop Around the Corner. When you've found your soul mate, the fact that she's a bit of a bitch shouldn't stop you. Having already aired out both their petty disagreements and their deepest ideals, the rest should be smooth sailing.

Mr. Darcy. Pride and Prejudice. You can't trust the smooth talkers, but a guy who'll bail out your loser relatives after you've rejected him in a humiliating fashion is a keeper.

I almost included Nick Charles from The Thin Man. The first film to have the concept of a married couple as fun-loving best friends is an important landmark, but in reality I'd fear the inevitable alcoholism-related bills later in life. I once counted all the martinis they had and realized if I drank that many I'd be dead. Dude, that's pure alcohol!

Of course, my sweetie is a combo of the best qualities of all five.

Sunday, November 09, 2008

JFRO STARTS A MOVEMENT (WELL, ON FACEBOOK, ANYWAY)

My co-worker and I were talking about the trouble with getting to the polls on Election Day, and we came up with the idea of combining Election Day with Veterans Day (I know, it's not original, but we were very impressed with ourselves). My polling place is 1/2 mile from a bus in either direction, in a ritzy neighborhood that believes in having no street lights to keep out the riff-raff, and yes, it is uphill both ways. Since my stupid state requires a reason to vote absentee (lack of transportation is not listed as a valid excuse), there was no way I was going to risk getting challenged this year.

This idea would solve two problems-- 1) everyone forgets Veterans Day, schools usually don't close, so vets are not being properly honored, and 2) voter turnout is (usually) rather low. VV Day would honor vets by reminding everyone what they fought for, while giving more people a chance to vote without creating another national holiday.

Here's my Facebook group--join the Jfro juggernaut!